Doing This 1 Thing Will Make Your Kids Happier Adults, According to Science

Doing This 1 Thing Will Make Your Kids Happier Adults, According to Science Science says happier people are raised by parents who do this onething, according to Jeff Haden. But, I need to ask What if the parent has no idea how to properly execute this thing?According to a study from the University College London, they found that people who perceived their parents as less psychologically controlling and mora caring as they were growing up were likely to be happier and more satisfied adults. I get that. I can see the huge advantages of having a solid, caring and warm foundation versus the mind games and emotional blackmail tactics usually employed by parents of yore and perhaps even now. Only a mother knows how to instill gnawing guilt and a fathers disapproval can crush even the fruchtwein accomplished adult.That being said, if we the parents are the products of over controlling parents how can we be expected to raise happy adult-children? Would we even know how? Children learn what t hey live, and I, like many, learned the direct opposite of a caring and warm environment.So, being an avid believer in modeling behavior, I decided that I needed to learn how to be happy. This seemed a rather odd goal because I didnt consider myself to be unhappy, but I wasnt necessarily happy. Sure things were good, but I always found myself pressed for time, worried about something or rushing to do everything. My responsibilities as a mom, wife, and worker always seemed to get in the way of just being happy, or more importantly, I let those things get in the way of my happiness.The takeaway is that the number 1 most important thing any parent can do to nurture their childs happiness, contentment, and confidence as an adult, is to show them not only how to do all those things, but what it looks like.So what does happy look like? Do you know? Are you modeling happy? If you asked your children right now Do you think mommy and/or daddy is happy you would be shocked at their answers.Yo unger children tend to say their parents are happy most of the time with the exception of when their parents get home from work, are deckenfries in traffic, paying bills, shopping, getting the car fixed, fighting about money, etc.Adolescents on the other hand will say their parents are never happy. Theyre always stressed out. Theyre miserable because theyre broke all the time. They hate their jobs. They never laugh. They have no idea how to have fun. They dont even smile.Talk about a reality check. How do you think your children would grade you on the happiness scale?Think about it, our children usually dont do what we tell them to do, but they always do as we do, even when they say I will never say that to my child or I will never do that with my children. I would wager big money that in 10-15 years, they will be doing and saying the exact same things they swore they would never do or say. And this is why it is so important to make your happiness as the parent, your number 1 priori ty.Taking care of yourself, your physical, mental, and spiritual well being is paramount to teaching your children how to value themselves. They need to see you tend to your own happiness so that they will know its okay to take time for themselves, to do whatever it is that makes them feel recharged, refreshed, and happy with how they show up in the world, and more importantly to those that matter most.In a nutshell, your childs adulthood happiness depends on your happiness right now. The happier you are, the more energy and ease you will have to literally swaddle your child in warmth and caring.--Heidi Crux is the author of Public Speaking Simplified and Demystified. Communication Basics to Create Lasting Impressions. Heidi is a graduate of Dale Carnegie Training with over 25 years of experience both in and out of the boardroom teaching communication basics and management principles at the university level. As a trainer and coach Heidi conducts seminars and workshops upon request a s well as public speaking engagements.